Being a new mom is tough. You’re not getting much sleep and are so exhausted. Beyond exhausted. You’re still trying to learn how to be a mother to your new baby. Trying to figure out what your baby needs at any given moment. Most of the time having absolutely no clue.
As a first time mom, I felt so overwhelmed and clueless. I remember one night my daughter was screaming at the top of her lungs. I tried feeding her. Changing her. Burping her. I tried everything. And then I just cried with her. Hysterical, exhausted sobs.
The first several months of Addie’s life were hard. I felt like I would never get the hang of being a mom. Or ever get a full night of sleep again.
“Just wait” was what I kept reading. “Just wait, it’s going to get worse.”
I read article after article, blog post after blog post. When would things start looking up? When would I not feel like a zombie anymore? According to the internet, the outlook was pretty bleak. Everyone made raising kids sound horrible. They did agree that it was worth it, but I didn’t get much hope for what came next. And I desperately needed hope.
The posts that I was reading made parenting sound soul sucking and depressing. Life would never be the same and it wasn’t going to get easier. It seemed like everything I read was so negative and pessimistic. Definitely not what a struggling new mom needed to hear.
Well, I’m happy to announce that I did survive the newborn stage. And I would like to share with you what I figured out.
It really does get better.
And not years and years later when the kids are finally out of the house. And not when they’re old enough to go to school. It’s much sooner than that. Eventually your baby will sleep through the night. I promise you. It will happen. And they’ll be able to tell you why they’re upset. Maybe not in words, but clear enough for you to understand.
There will be a day when you realize you’re not just dragging through your day. Your child will wake up in the morning and not several times in the middle of the night. You’ll be an expert at being your child’s mommy. You’ll get hugs and kisses that make up for all the sleepless nights. Smiles and laughter.
Your life won’t always be just dirty diapers and feedings and crying (from you and the baby). Things do get better.
I thought I’d never get a full night of sleep again. But then it happened. I know right now you feel like this phase of life will never end. But it will. You’ll look back and it will seem like such a short chapter in your parenting story.
Hold on, mama! You’re going to get through this. In one piece, too!
Hold on. You’re going to make it. It really does get better.